Transgender Day of Visibility: A Non-Binary perspective

Today is Transgender Day of Visibility (TDoV). Two years ago, I posted about my own identity on this blog and a few other sites. While scrolling through my social media today, a friend of mine who is non-binary had posted their own definition of how non-binary identity shows up in their life and invited others…

Sitting with an old friend

I sat with someone yesterday lost in the fresh pain of grief I can’t begin to know the depth of their grief or their particular circumstances but I know my own, for I have lived with grief longer than I’ve lived with love Grief has become a reluctant friend of mine following me ever present,…

Connections

I cannot be everything that you love about me if I cannot fully be myself. My courage and tenacity, creativity and vulnerability, and all the other parts, cannot exist without the messiness, the fear, the pain, or the doubt. For my love has been buried beneath these, and it does not feel safe to come…

Self Compassion: A New Expressive Arts Piece

What I know about growth is that it takes the time it takes. We can’t force it. We can’t jump ahead in the line. We have to start where we are, with acceptance that we don’t know whatever it is that we don’t know yet. And when we know better, we do better. It really…

Teachers

September always brings a sense of nostalgia and deja vu for me. Something about the intersections of new beginnings and letting go. This is the first year in many that it doesn’t mean back to school for me… but I have a lot of friends who are teacher, was raised by a teacher, and with…

Dance

Growing up in middle-class white culture, many of my generation didn’t know how to dance. Dancing was for lovers at weddings. For performers. But not for celebration. Not for rebellion. Not for connection. Not for tradition. The expressions of humanity were sanctioned under very specific social rules because the only people that danced outside of…

To Love

To love, to give, to receive, to speak kindness, to touch, to give our time and attention. for love is the only freedom that allows each of us to be fully human with one another. A place where we can sit right where we are and start with whatever is right in front of us…